The Hidden Patterns Running Your Life — And How to Break Them — with Peter McLachlan

Why do you keep repeating the same patterns… even when you know they’re not serving you?

In this episode of Soul Sync, I’m joined by hypnotherapist and life coach Peter McLachlan for a powerful conversation about the hidden programming running beneath your life — and how it quietly shapes your decisions, behaviours, and outcomes.

We explore why so many people feel stuck, not because they lack willpower or discipline, but because much of what drives them is happening unconsciously.

This isn’t about surface-level mindset shifts.

It’s about understanding the deeper patterns — the emotional imprints, beliefs, and learned responses — that keep showing up in relationships, health, business, and everyday life.

Peter shares how these patterns are formed, why fear plays such a central role in keeping them in place, and what begins to change when you bring awareness to what’s been running in the background.

Because the moment you see it… you can start to change it.

To view Peter's videos and affirmations, you can visit his YouTube page - https://www.youtube.com/@BlueSkyHypnosis

🔊 What you’ll hear in this episode

• Why you keep repeating the same patterns
• How subconscious programming shapes your behaviour
• The hidden role fear plays in your decisions
• Emotional responsibility vs blame — and why it matters
• How awareness becomes the turning point for change
• Practical ways to begin breaking old cycles

👤 Who this episode is for

• Anyone who feels stuck or caught in repeating patterns
• People on a personal growth or healing journey
• Those curious about the subconscious mind
• Listeners ready to take ownership and create change

💡 Mentions & ideas

• Subconscious programming
• Behavioural patterns
• Emotional awareness
• Fear vs growth
• Personal responsibility

⚠️ Gentle note

This episode explores personal growth and emotional patterns. Take what resonates, and go at your own pace.

✨ Get in touch
If you have a story, experience, or idea you'd love to share on Soul Sync, I’d love to hear from you.
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Transcript

Intro

SPEAKER_00 0:02

Hello and welcome to the Soul Seek Podcast. It's me, Medium, Jason Paul, and it's lovely as always to have you here with me. Now, this is a really special conversation. Um, I tell you that from the very get-go. I was sitting here scribbling loads of notes because uh this next guest just made so many great points. So please let me introduce you to Peter McLaughlin. He's a hypnotherapist, a life coach, a kind of a self-proclaimed uh Western shaman, actually. And what unfolds is a deeply honest exploration into why so many of us can just kind of feel stuck in our lives, and more importantly, how we begin to shift that. So in this conversation, we go beneath the surface. This isn't about surface level mindset hacks or quick fixes, it's about understanding the roots of our patterns, the subconscious beliefs, the emotional imprints, and the stories we've carried often, sometimes without even realizing it. Now, Peter shares powerful insights into how our behaviour is being driven unconsciously and how until we bring ourselves kind of to be aware of that in the first place, we can find ourselves repeating the same cycles in relationships, in health, in business and in life. We talk about emotional responsibility, about moving out of blame and into ownership. So many of us, including myself, are given such a hard time in life, and we discuss that in this podcast and the patterns that shift that out. And it really got me thinking this conversation about how fear quietly influences our decisions, how it keeps us small, and how when we learn to sit with it rather than run from it, something begins to shift. So this episode really invites you to look inward, but outward at the same time, to question what's running in the background, to notice what might be holding you back, not from a place of judgment, but from curiosity, because that's really where change begins. Honestly, I think you'll be moved by this conversation in joy. Oh, I'm excited, Peter. Welcome. I'm making you laugh when we haven't even started yet. Welcome! Welcome, welcome, welcome to the Soul Sync podcast. It's lovely to have you here.

SPEAKER_01 2:32

And it's lovely to be here. Thank you.

SPEAKER_00 2:35

Yes, I think we're gonna have a lovely conversation. So tell me and the lovely listener all about you, Peter.

SPEAKER_01 2:45

Okay, all about me. Yes, tell us your story. We were weird, I have a weird background, and when I saw yours, I thought we were we were similar in that respect. You said that you used to be a police officer and a magician, and a crew member or cabin member or something like that.

SPEAKER_00 3:04

Yeah, my background is like the movie Catch Me If You Can. I left school. I was always very entrepreneurial at school, but I left school and then I we was very much into performing magic, so I did that and performed in restaurants, everything there and in between. I used to do um even nursing homes, you'd be shocked by it. And then, yes, I became cabin crew and then a police officer, and then I started a business, and you know, it's like a bloody roller coaster ride. But the listener knows about me, so you tell tell us about you.

SPEAKER_01 3:36

Yeah, well, the reason I brought that up in part is because it reminds me of my story. So I was a volunteer firefighter and an EMT for 15 years in two different states, and had a you know a remarkable series of experiences doing that, probably like you being a police officer. And I was an actor in New York City for 10 years, and same thing, you know, performing on the transatlantic cruises, the CUNAD line, spending a lot of time. Wow, spending a lot of time in London, actually, and performing on you know, in people's houses and on antique trains and in theaters, kind of kind of everywhere. Same sort of thing. What sorts of performer was you? And I was an actor, so I did soap operas in New York City, and I did a lot of Shakespeare, and I did murder mysteries. That's what the the crossings on the on the old QE2 were all about. Oh, you were one of the actors on a murder mystery. Mm-hmm. Yeah, I was usually the killer, by the way.

SPEAKER_00 4:36

I could not believe that. Now you say that, I'm seeing another side to you, actually.

SPEAKER_01 4:41

The police officer part of you should have detected this already.

SPEAKER_00 4:45

It probably says a lot about why I left the police, Peter. But I but I tell you this, my um I was very good at finding things, and I would get pieces of evidence that people couldn't believe. But I think it's because I was using my mediumistic faculties there without realizing it. People used to say, Well, where did you get that hunch from? I'd say, I don't know, I just thought to look there, you know.

SPEAKER_01 5:05

So that's cool. Have you worked with them since you became a medium?

SPEAKER_00 5:12

No, but I actually know a medium that does do a lot of work with the police on missing person inquiries. And we've had people on the show uh mediums that get contacted by the police uh for different cases. And uh one medium on the show said about uh uh where she got a c contact from someone that had been, you know, tragically murdered and got in touch with the police. So we do I do hear about it, and I am in those circles, but I'm not uh I'm not doing that myself at the moment. I understand. I've got enough figs I'm spinning at the moment, Peter, let alone starting to do detective work on the side.

SPEAKER_01 5:52

Sure, sure. I also owned a secure a 50 person security guard business for a while, and then everything changed when I got a simultaneous diagnosis for Lyme disease and leukemia on the same day. When I asked how long they thought I had to live, they said maybe 10 years. And that was 23 years ago. And that really started the Odyssey that I call that led me to wanting to be trained as a hypnotherapist and doing this work. And what made you decide hypnotherapy? There were a series of events that seemed at the time like they were disconnected, but that in a moment it all it all kind of flashed together, and I just knew. So one of the things was after I sold the security guard business, I owned a small shipping and packing business, and somebody walked in one day, this was in Connecticut, and they said, I want to ship this package, and it said Hypnotherapy Academy of America, Santa Fe, New Mexico. And I got into this long conversation with this woman, it was probably like an hour, and then I kind of forgot about it. And then a couple other incidents occurred, and then my wife and I were watching the movie The Secret, and halfway through the movie, I just looked at her and I said, I need to be a hypnotist. And she looked back and she had the same feeling, the same thought. And she said, Yeah, you do.

SPEAKER_00 7:09

And it came to you both at the same moment. The same moment, yep. Yep. And it's interesting that it was the secret of all things that you were watching.

SPEAKER_01 7:19

Yes, yes, it was. And the person, the man who started the hypnotherapy academy in New Mexico was a former paramedic. And I was identified heavily with being a first responder then. And the focus was on the medical, adjunctive medical uses of hypnotherapy. And so that was like perfect as well. And when I called them, it was like a Thursday, and they said the class, the next class starts on Monday, and we have one spot left. And I was just, I'm in, I'm in. And it was true. That was the last spot. So it it just everything seemed to line up in a sort of divine fashion.

08:10 – What’s Actually Driving Your Behaviour

– What’s Actually Driving Your Behaviour

SPEAKER_00 7:58

I feel like I want to take you back to when you had the diagnosis, because it feels to me like you've already gone through and and you know, I'm trying to relate because of my background, because I've changed and done a lot of things and changed my life in many different ways because of certain things that have happened. And when you describe, you know, working in the healthcare profession to then going off to become an actor, to then having this diagnosis that then it feels like it opens a Pandora's box and it, you know, was you trying to change a way of thinking of how you was, you know, wanting to heal yourself in some way? What was that, all of that talk using?

SPEAKER_01 8:37

Well, it started it started with I went to a hematologist oncologist after I got the initial diagnosis. And this doctor said, we don't know what causes this, and we don't know how to cure it. And that was pretty much the moment at which I realized if I was gonna have any chance at extending my life, and I had three small kids at the time, that I was gonna have to, I was gonna have to dive into this myself. I put the security guard business on hold. You know, I was just sending out invoices and paying uh payroll. And the rest of the time I was researching. And as I researched, I found myself being drawn from the purely physical cause and effect into the power the mind has over the body. So that was the that was the entry point, let's say. And then when I got to New Mexico, part of the work was choosing one of the instructors to be our hypnotherapist, and then the rest of it, of course, was being a student. And I worked through all kinds of stuff when I was there, emotional stuff from the past. And in a kind of extracurricular way, I teamed up with some other students, and we did things outside of class. I met, I had, I, I, an unbidden, I didn't ask her to come, but the the Virgin Mary came to me when I was doing this circle with three other men. And then I had two spontaneous past life regressions, and I feel like my life was completely transformed by being there. And I firmly believe that I was meant to do this work and I was on the wrong path. I wasn't my I wasn't walking down the right road, and my soul or my spirit or my spirit guides or God hit me in the side of the head with a two by four. That it would take for me, that it would take twin diagnoses, one being a potentially fatal diagnosis, in order to get me to pay attention.

SPEAKER_00 11:03

I could do you know what it yeah, as you're saying that it's it is reminding me, you know, a lot of different things that I've done in my life. Like how I how I came to awaken, Peter, was because I had believed for years that material success and you know whatever would make me happy. And then I chased the career ladder, eventually got to a point where I realized I'm, you know, the more money I'm making, I'm bloody miserable. I am so miserable. It was my soul crying out for more. And as on this podcast, I hear all different ways that people come to have these moments. Only yesterday I was talking to someone about a kundalini awakening and how that's you know a vibration and where does that come from? Is that from the earth sending out almost like God sending out a trigger to awaken? So it's it you had these experiences. It sounds to me like that was bringing on board or opening up, you know, your faculties as well, because you were starting to see, you know, beings from another dimension. That's a lot going on at once. I have an understanding of hypnotherapy, but I'm not gonna say my understanding is great, other than I've spoken about it, I've had some myself in the past. What is it that drew you so much to that? And what do you believe it can actually do to help people?

SPEAKER_01 12:22

Well, I find it really interesting that my grandfather, who who was kind of like my hero growing up, I really admired, he was a World War II veteran, and he had this what I thought beautiful combination of athleticism, strength in athleticism, coupled with a deep, curious, open intellectual mind. I just love loved that about him, I still do. And he used to quote the famous French hypnotist from the 1920s, Emile Coe, who's who had this famous auto-suggestion, which was each day and every way I'm getting better and better. And so I think that was kind of seated in there somewhere. I also, on the other side of my family, I got to meet my great-great-grandmother who came to the to the US from Ireland. And through her and through my grandmother, there was this kind of uh old Gaelic Irish magic that the world is more than what we just can see with with our with our eyes and detect with our other physical senses. So those things were kind of lingering in the background. And then there was the piece of the mind is controlling the body. There was the piece of the the allopathy didn't know what the hell was going on, and so they were no use to me. I I'm not saying that there isn't anything else. I suspect that there is. I, you know, this this idea of being on the wrong course. Of that person wandering into my store to ship a box off to the Hypnotherapy Academy of America that was started by a guy who was an ex-paramedic and who had a medical focus. Like all of these things to me just feel too perfect to be completely random.

SPEAKER_00 14:10

And there was just there's something that yes, it's and there was just something in that can relate to that. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 14:15

There's just something in that moment that I'm sure a lot of your listeners can relate to when you just know. You just know.

SPEAKER_00 14:22

I I remember people saying You know because of how it makes you feel, I believe.

SPEAKER_01 14:27

Sure, sure. And the same thing happened when I met my wife. People people would tell me, like my grandmother, would say it was said, How would you know when you met the right one? She said, You just know. Which is the most unsatisfying answer you could imagine. But it's actually true, you know, it's actually true. And when I met her, it was like there was a bell ringing inside of my head. I knew, I just knew there were obstacles, and we had to deal with the obstacles, but I knew for the first time in my life. I I was, I think, 32 or 33, and I'd never had that experience before. But I I heard a bell ringing in my head, and I knew she was the one.

SPEAKER_00 15:08

It's it's even interesting what you say about being on the wrong course, and you know, you kind of what you're getting is slapped in the face by something, you know, God, the power, spirit world, perhaps all three at once, you know. Depends how off course you're going. I know I've been I have I almost laugh sometimes when I think about my own journey, Peter, in the fact that you know, I'm someone where I'm almost demanding from the spirit world that they slap me in the face. You know, sometimes I'm given signs to do things, and you know, I almost feel like no, that's not enough. I want to be slapped in the face even more. And I think, why will you not accept the help, you know, at times when I'm derailing? But there is something in that, you know, if you were going very off course in your life, you know, I've heard stories of where it hits like that, and it's you can't ignore it. You know, it's life-changing and it's acts as a catalyst moment, doesn't it?

– The Subconscious Patterns Running Your Life

16:48 – The Subconscious Patterns Running Your Life

SPEAKER_01 16:04

Yes, yeah, for sure, for sure. And it points out to me how many signs I was ignoring prior to getting you know metaphorically hit in the head with a spiritual two by four. And that, and that even after that, I'm sad to say, I had to have another experience, another spiritual two by four, to really get me to pay attention. I I mean, I and I had another experience beyond that. So that was like a near-drowning experience that we can go into if you want. But there was another time in 2011 when I was having a difficult time in my personal life. And I asked my spirit guides to show me, I said, is there an animal that represents what I'm going through right now? And I had in my mind that I was gonna see some badass jungle cat, like a leopard or a cougar or a panther or a tiger or a lion. That's what I had in mind that I was I wanted. And what they showed me was a frog jumping along. And mentally, I pushed the frog out of the way and I resettled myself. I took in a deep breath and I said, okay, I'm ready. Is there an animal that represents what I'm going through right now? And they showed up, the frog.

SPEAKER_00 17:26

What do you think that was trying to show you in that moment on reflection, Pizza?

SPEAKER_01 17:31

Well, I asked them, I said, okay, tell me what the meaning of the frog is. And they said, This pain you're going through represents a spiritual leap forward. That was the instant answer that they gave me after I tried to push it away. So clearly I've had an issue with ego, with pride, whatever, that has a lot of experience with ignoring signs in the past and wanting things to be a certain way that's aligned to my will force or my ego. And these these various lessons have helped me to perhaps get that hubris under control to a degree, and the will force under control, and also to get on the path that I believe I was supposed to be on, probably earlier.

SPEAKER_00 18:21

And what do you believe that path is?

SPEAKER_01 18:25

I think it I think it's basically this call it this the spirit path, the path of the spirit. And I don't I don't even know what the right word is. You know, I call myself a hypnotherapist and a life coach, but honestly, I feel like I'm more like a Western shaman or something. Because when I work with people, I take Einstein's dictum to heart that if you want to solve a problem, you can't solve it at the level at which it was created. You have to go up a level. And for me, that's to go to the spiritual level. And a lot of what I do are regression. So regression to an earlier time in this life, a past life regression, a spiritual regression, meeting your spirit guide, getting a gift from your spirit guide, understanding what the meaning of the gift is, what is your purpose in this life? How many lifetimes have you worked on it? Do you have soul contracts with the people with whom you're struggling? This sort of thing.

SPEAKER_00 19:23

Well, I even want to ask about that because that's so interesting. This is the thing with this podcast. You can go down so many rabbit holes, you really can. Past life regressions. You mentioned there that you know people are coming to you. I still even want to ask about the hypnotherapy, but like you said, you are a Western shaman. But I can understand because it's problems are you can't just put things there and there. It's you know, sometimes a lot more tangled. That's a very good way of putting it, isn't it? You can tell I work in the profession. But I guess I want to delve into some of this because you know, we're all uh struggling with ego, pride, and very you know, that's the just the starts, all sorts of things in our lives, aren't we?

SPEAKER_01 20:08

Well, sure, for sure. And the the thing about hypnosis, to me, the hypnosis is a tool. Neurolinguistic programming is a tool, haven't is a tool, EMDR is a tool. The the the idea of being a shaman is like saying carpenter, and hypnosis is like saying circular saw or hammer. Yes. And and people really, I think, ultimately care about the outcome. They they're feeling some pain or they're getting blocked, and they want they they want to overcome that. And I don't think they really care at the end of the day what tool is being used, as long as they understand that it's not gonna harm them.

SPEAKER_00 20:48

So, what are the typical issues that you see that people come to you uh with?

SPEAKER_01 20:52

Well, I've over the 20 years I've been doing this, I've come up with this idea that there's basically three buckets in life that you could be struggling with. And one of them is health, it's mental, physical health. The second one is money, finance, purpose, work, business. And then the third one is relationship. And that could be it's usually the the primary kind of romantic relationship, but it could be with a child, it could be with a parent, it could be with say a friend or something. But those are the three areas. And I've been told by marketing people I should focus on one because it's easier to sell that, like just focus on weight loss.

SPEAKER_00 21:35

And every time I try to do this, oh well, there's a lot to be said in business about having a niche. I've been saying that recently.

SPEAKER_01 21:42

Well, yes, but it fails miserably for me every single time because I keep I feel like I keep getting pulled into no, it's not about the specific problem, it's it's how we're solving all kinds of problems. And I can't imagine saying no to somebody who's struggling in their relationship any more than I could say no to somebody who's struggling with with their weight, you know, or somebody who has horrible anxiety, or somebody who's suffering from grief due to the loss of a loved one. You know, these are all things that I I deal with all the time.

SPEAKER_00 22:19

Yes. But so people come to you with the with their their problems, or you know, perhaps they have Haven't even identified what the block is. And, you know, for instance, Peter, you know, if I was to come to you as, you know, a man who's been single now for six years, you know, I'm so where is my partner? I'm sitting here waiting. You know, how how do you diagnose that? How do you know if the problems in this world or the next, or back in a previous life?

SPEAKER_01 22:49

Okay, so the first the first way to answer that is again with that concept of simplifying. Everything, in my opinion, comes back to the autonomic nervous system. Autonomic for your listeners just means automatic. This is what's running everything about your body, from its temperature to breathing to your immune system, your endocrine system, your digestive system. It's all being run by your autonomic nervous system. And when you get triggered, this is a current phrase that we use, it means that you have been triggered into a fight or flight response. And that's one of two options of the autonomic nervous system. If you're not fight or flight, you rest and digest. That's it. There's no third choice. And so if the first thing I want to know is because the subconscious has no concept of time, because its job is to protect you, the first thing with you I would want to know is is part of you trying to protect you from being harmed in a relationship. So if you'd had some kind of harm come to you as a result of being in a relationship at any time in the past, it's possible that your subconscious mind has set up a belief, a belief is just an idea and an emotion that get married, has set up a belief, like a defensive layer, saying relationships are not safe. That would be the first thing I would be thinking about.

SPEAKER_00 24:15

I'm not saying that's what's going on for you. That'd be the Oh well that is actually going on for me, in all honesty. Yes, I have been hurting relationships. And yes, there is true, you know, probably some truth in that. Okay. Well, not some truth in it. Yes, it's true.

SPEAKER_01 24:31

So your body, we've established this before. Like when I knew that my wife was the right one, I could hear a bell ringing in my head. When I knew that I had to be a hypnotist, I could feel it. So your body, we I think can all agree, is a feedback mechanism. And in the West, we have become so divorced from our bodies that the only time we're aware of what they're saying to us is at an extreme, either pleasure or pain or fear. But the body is always speaking to you, even subtly. When you go to put something in your mouth, your body's weighing in on that, yes or no. If it's artificial sweetener like aspartame, it's saying no, I guarantee you. If it's like an organic apple, it's saying yes. So I believe, and you may find this interesting, maybe you believe it too, that everybody has these psychic abilities. Everyone. Just believe that. Just like everyone has the ability to throw a ball, but some people can throw a ball 95 miles an hour. And some people top out at 30.

SPEAKER_00 25:41

Trust me, if I throw the ball, it's not going very far at this current uh level of fitness.

SPEAKER_01 25:47

You know what I'm saying, right? Like everyone's saying yes, and they can get better with practice, but some people probably have more of a God-given gift for taking it all the way to 95.

SPEAKER_00 25:59

Yeah. Some people are gifted in it, some people have experiences young. Everyone has the ability, yes. But you know, if you're not doing anything to develop it, you know. Sure, it's gonna atrophy.

– Why You Keep Repeating the Same Cycles

26:30 – Why You Keep Repea00:00 – Intro (2:21)

SPEAKER_01 26:13

I teach people to use a pendulum. A pendulum is an amplifier of what the body is already saying. So we establish with the client holding the pendulum how it moves for them for yes, how it moves for them for no, and how it moves for them for maybe. So with you, we would do the same thing. And then we would have you ask the question, you holding the pendulum, is my subconscious mind trying to protect me by keeping me out of a relationship? If we got a no, we move on from that. It's gonna be something else. If we got a hit, if we got a yes, now the next task is to identify when that when that protective cordon was created. Because it was definitely created by a trauma or something you perceived as such. And then our job would be to go back in time in your mind and heal that trauma to remove the block.

SPEAKER_00 27:20

That's fascinating. It's so simple, but I've I've got several pendulums. I've never thought of doing that with one, I tell you. I will be doing that now, though. Interesting, really interesting. So looking at past life regressions, talk to us about your work, and it's gonna be people listening to this going, past life what, Peter? You know, what are one of those? Okay, so you want to know what it is? Well, I want to know what it is, and I want to know what it, you know, the the things that are coming up in people's past lives and that's affecting them in this life, I guess.

SPEAKER_01 27:57

Okay, so the first the first thing that I would like to have people understand is that if you listen to quantum physicists, they will tell you that time is an illusion created by a planet that is rotating on its own axis and is orbiting the sun. That gives us night and day and the seasons. And you could easily imagine that just outside of that system, how there is no time. Which is, as I said before, coincidentally, or maybe not, mirrored by your subconscious mind. Your subconscious has no concept of time. Everything is now. And you know this because if you've ever watched a movie or read a novel or been in love, and four hours or two hours went by like this, and it felt to you like 20 minutes, that's because you were fully in the province of your subconscious mind. I would say you were in hypnosis by definition. Because hypnosis is simply a focused state of concentration where selective thinking is employed. So you're so focused on the movie that you that time ceases to exist. But that also mirrors the quantum reality of no time. So to your subconscious mind, there really is no past lifetime. There really is no, oh, that happened 30 years ago. And if you think about how PTSD works, it doesn't matter how much time passes. It doesn't matter if the veteran is 15 years away from Fallujah, away from an IED blast, is not wearing the uniform anymore. You know, it lives 5,000 miles away from that location. It doesn't matter. They hear a noise, they wake up in the middle of the night, they hear a tone of voice, and their body is going to respond as if their life is in danger. Because to the subconscious, it is. That's the first thing I want to say.

SPEAKER_00 29:52

It's so interesting. The way you explain that, I've never even thought of it like that, to be quite honest with you. The way you even uh threw in the world there and the way it's written, well, yes, it is just time doesn't exist, but to put it into that concept, you can't you can tell the difference with someone who's really wise on a subject and really knows the subject because you could put it in a language, but you can then explain it to other people. But that you know, you know, point well made. Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 30:19

Thank you.

SPEAKER_00 30:20

Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 30:21

So the other thing I would like to say about past lives is that there's plenty of proof out there that they're real. There's plenty of proof that your consciousness survives your physical death. And if you're interested in that, just go onto YouTube and type in near death experience or NDE, and you will hear from all kinds of people from all walks of life, including neurosurgeons, police officers, homemakers, surgeons, whatever, what that they had a period of consciousness that occurred when they had no heartbeat and no brainwaves. And to me, it's not a big hop, skip, and a jump from your consciousness survives, your physical death, to you are reincarnated. If we were born into a different culture, we would accept this as a matter of course. And for those of your listeners who may have more than one child, what you will immediately recognize is that each one of them is different. They share the same genetic makeup. If you had that child with the same husband or the same wife or partner, whatever, maybe they ate the same food, they grew up in the same environment, but they they came in different, with different interests, different fears. And I say, this is all coming from the past life. We're all bringing stuff with us. You brought your skills, Jason, with you, probably from another lifetime, as have I.

SPEAKER_00 31:54

It's very interesting the way you explain it. And yes, you know, when you're born, you have a personality. Where does that come from, that non-physical bit? Because that is the essence of you. And you know, I guess when you go back to being a child, that's you know, well, we try to do work with the inner child, isn't it? And all of that, because we're trying to be who we truly are.

SPEAKER_01 32:18

Correct. And if you can imagine that concept of inner child and just extend it to a 42-year-old version of you who was executed in the reign of terror in France in the 1700s. And now you're afraid of speaking in public, and you have no clue why. But you went through a traumatic experience where you were standing on a stage in quotation marks in front of a bunch of people, an audience. And now, when you're in that same situation, your subconscious mind remembers. And it feeds it back through to you with a feeling of fear, your heart's pounding, and you think it's just because a camera's focused at you, or because you're standing behind a lectern. No, there's a reason for this. I think the magical thinking is a problem just appears out of nowhere with no root cause. I think that is magical thinking. How come you have can't how come a person has cancer, doctor? I don't know, just some people are unlucky. Come on.

SPEAKER_00 33:19

Yeah, well, I think there's much more to this. I think our path is already sketched out. You know, it's how I I look back at my life now the older I get, and I start to think, this just hasn't happened all by chance, the way my life has become how it is now. You know, things landing in this place and this place. And, you know, even recently after the the passing of my father, I look back and I thought the timing and what I felt on the run-up. And, you know, it's I I've I'm ever more looking at my life thinking, you know, that the body and the eyes fool us more than they show us the the real reality of what it is that we are.

SPEAKER_01 34:01

And never more so in human history than now with AI.

SPEAKER_00 34:08

Why so why so? Because a lot of people listening to this are going to be thinking, yes, AI, you know, tell us more.

SPEAKER_01 34:15

Well, you you you can't really distinguish now, and you certainly won't be able to in six months or in a year, between something that was generated by AI and something that was captured by a camera faithfully by a human being. So how do you how do you trust your eyes? How do we trust our eyes moving forward? If you can if you can capture someone's speech so it sounds like them, if you can capture their image so it it looks like them, if you can create a scene with explosions and buildings falling down and everything else, and just tell people, yeah, that's what happened. Like, how would you know?

SPEAKER_00 34:55

Well, yeah, it's almost like we need to start, if you're not uh, you know, start getting in touch with your uh the way you feel more than ever before, because you know you're right, you can't trust what you see. And you know, that's why I try and stay off of social media and things like that, because you know, you for that very reason.

SPEAKER_01 35:13

And even if you could completely trust everything that you see on your screens with your eyeballs and your ears, if you've ever read like I got really interested in this, and I'm and the question I wanted to know was what percentage of the light spectrum is made up of visible light? In other words, what percentage of the light spectrum can we see with these eyeballs? The answer, what what do you think the answer is?

SPEAKER_00 35:40

I think the answer is gonna be like not even one percent.

SPEAKER_01 35:45

Correct. It's even a lot smaller than that. It's 0.0035.

SPEAKER_00 35:55

Oh blind me, that is low, isn't it?

SPEAKER_01 35:57

And we have a statement saying seeing is believing.

SPEAKER_00 36:01

Well, it's I uh I you know you make that point very well because I have been saying recently that the eyes fool us, but I wouldn't eat or you asked me that question again, I wouldn't have considered it, but I knew it was gonna be low, but not that low, you know.

SPEAKER_01 36:18

And if that if that's the case, then and and we we've also established about how AI can fool our physical senses and we'll get perfect at it over the next whatever short period of time.

SPEAKER_00 36:31

Yeah.

36:43 – Fear, Avoidance & Emotional Triggers

– Fear, Avoidance & Emotional Triggers

SPEAKER_01 36:31

Then isn't it don't we go back to either we're in person or we're accessing truth on the inside, just like when I heard that bell ringing when I met my wife, just like when I knew I needed to be a hypnotist, just like other people have known things and they don't know how they knew it.

SPEAKER_00 36:53

I could listen to you for ages just talk about all these different concepts. You have a very good way of explaining things. I could tell it's from a path very well trodden. That I I often think to myself when I look at plants, you know, how do you know that the green that you see is the green that you see? How do you even know that green is green? You know, it's you know, you start asking yourself all these sorts of questions. And, you know, I always want to be curious, but I actually think that this I think that we will never know the magnitude and we will never even come close to knowing the magnitude of what it is that we are a part of. But you know, I'm determined to try and find out. That's it. It just draws me in. It's I think once awoken, you are once curious, you're in. Because you know, the more I know and learn, the more I realise I don't know at the same time, you know. But there we go. So tell us, I want to just ask. People come to you, they have hypnosis. What are the top things that you are seeing that people you've described the categories? But I guess I want to just understand in the time that we have left, how people can help themselves. You've mentioned about the pendulum, that's you know, a very good exercise. But how can people help, you know, they could have figs going on in all lives now, couldn't they? How can people help themselves to live a better life, from your opinion, from what you're seeing, and you know, all of your knowledge?

SPEAKER_01 38:27

I think it starts with philosophy, honestly. And the simpler the better. And that that living by certain principles that you believe in, I think makes life a lot easier to lead. So, for example, when I was diagnosed with Lyme disease and leukemia on the same day, I was in denial immediately, taking more tests. Tests came back with the same results. And then I went into some serious anger, the why me kind of thing, real serious anger, pounding on the steering wheel anger, angry at other people that were, you know, obese or something, eating an ice cream cone, and I didn't know that person. Maybe they have cancer, but I assumed they didn't, and it was unfair because they did, you know. And and where I am now, after many years and a lot of work, is when I feel pain, physical pain, emotional pain, psychological pain, spiritual pain. When I feel pain, my philosophy is it's there for a reason. It's trying to get my attention. It's not someone or God or messing with me, it's trying to teach me something. And the sooner I can get the message, the sooner I can get out of the pain. And this simple way of thinking about one's life immediately, in the moment, even, can bring a kind of calm and peace that otherwise you wouldn't have. It allows your thinking to go back to your prefrontal cortex from your lizard brain, which is only concerned with survival. And this thinking over here, along with creative thinking, can help you solve this problem or dilemma. And when you learn what the pain is trying to teach you, it that's also helping you too. Because now you don't necessarily have to repeat it. So I feel like that philosophical precept is enormous. Another one that I live by is your subconscious mind is about 95% of your brain's processing power. It runs your autonomic nervous system, as I said before. It's running all the patterns, the good ones, which is most of them, and the bad ones that keep producing the same results over and over again. And the mentality of your subconscious is literal. It's like you're walking around holding the hand of your four-year-old self all the time, and he or she believes everything you say. If you call yourself an asshole, if you say you're unlucky, if you say that you're cursed or whatever it is, that four-year-old, very powerful one, will start to believe it. And that belief will turn into physical reality. So there's a book called The Four Agreements, and one of the four agreements is be impeccable with your word. And to recognize that your words have immense power. And to start cleaning up how you speak about yourself. To start cleaning up how you speak about others, including your children. I had a client who was a psychologist who, in a in a kind of sarcastic way, when I first started working with this person, was calling her children like these little assholes. She's programming herself and probably them. Because most communication is non-verbal. Most communication, this is the realm of the actor, by the way, is what the body is doing and what the vocal tone, cadence, pitch, volume, silence, timber, all of it is communicating meaning. You know, you can I can say have a nice day in a way that would make you want to slap me.

SPEAKER_00 42:34

Oh, yeah. I do know what I train people like that in my sales um job, day job. I said tone is everything to people in their early 20s. It is, and it's it's a vibration, you know, it's it's not just in the words. You could say, uh, I saw something online um a little while ago with Tom Hanks doing an acting thing where he would um say, say the same line all these different ways. And it's it's very true. Yes, right.

SPEAKER_01 43:00

And so we are programming ourselves all the time. We are also influencing people around us by the words we speak and how we speak those words. And this is particularly important for people in any kind of leadership role, whether it's it's leadership in in the business working world or it's leadership in your home, like if you have children. You know, so she was walking around with this thing in her head. And when I talked about it and described it of how the subconscious receives it and how it's communicated, she was like, oh my God. And she just she just dropped it.

SPEAKER_00 43:39

I bet she did.

SPEAKER_01 43:40

She did, but so many, these are so many things that happen unconsciously.

SPEAKER_00 43:45

Yeah, you don't think it well, it's the it's everything. Thought is everything, isn't it? You know, right.

SPEAKER_01 43:51

So that's why I'm I'm I'm starting at a let's let's call it at a more of a macro or a higher level, and trying to make it really, really simple. You know, if you take on the philosophy that everything happens for a reason, and it's in particular, even the bad things are, and I'm speaking as somebody who's diagnosed with leukemia, right? Not standing on an ivory tower. The things are happening for a reason. The philosophy alone, taking that idea on and getting curious about it, will calm you down immediately, make you more able to deal with whatever that is, and you will learn something from it. And that's a great, I think, piece of philosophy with which to live your life. And then the next one is the be impeccable with your word, because you are your greatest, most powerful hypnotist. Not me. It's you followed by the television or followed by social media. And P.S. When people are watching television or doom scrolling, they are by definition in hypnosis.

SPEAKER_00 44:53

Well, yes, they are. I guess they're absorbed in what it is that they're focused on, aren't they?

SPEAKER_01 44:58

Yes, and they're watching a flickering image at a fixed distance. Staring at it. They're narrowing their focus. And this is one of the things.

SPEAKER_00 45:10

Well, I suppose it's but if you think about it, if you're watching the news and negative things all the time, like I used to say to my dad before he passed away, you know, stop watching the news as long as you do, just having it on all the time, because it's just negative frequency, isn't it? Absolutely. Absolutely.

SPEAKER_01 45:25

And and the the powers that be know this.

SPEAKER_00 45:28

Well, well, they do. We could probably do another hour just on that. Yes. But do you know what? You couldn't have got more value into this episode if you tried. You've got so many polls of wisdom.

SPEAKER_01 45:40

Can I say one more thing, Jason? Oh, well, I was going to ask you to leave us with a final thought or two. So yes, please do. Okay, so to follow up on what people can do, the third thing I would I would suggest is I have it. You can feel free to use mine. Mine is totally free on YouTube. Is listen to affirmations or hypnotic suggestions, including subliminal. So I create subliminal or sub-audible tracks. So all you hear consciously is say the sound of waves crashing, or the sound of rain, or the sound of music. But masked right behind that are the words. So you can listen to this like you can listen to this like sleeping.

SPEAKER_00 46:29

I was gonna say, I've heard about these, and it's it's interesting. Why do they work?

47:03 – Taking Responsibility (Without Blame)

– Taking Responsibility (Without Blame)

SPEAKER_01 46:36

Because the we're told, like if you look into this, we're told our conscious mind can process something like 16 bits of data per second. And the subconscious mind is like a million bits of data per second. Yeah. When you walk into a room, your subconscious, three or five senses, and maybe more, is picking up millions of bits of data from the outside and from the inside. And your conscious mind is missing almost everything. I I don't know if you've seen, or maybe some of your viewers have seen, there's a video where they're asking you to do something to focus on something that's happening on the screen. And there are these groups of people that come on and they're they're doing these different things, bouncing basketball or something like that. And you're kind of fixated watching these people bouncing the basketball, because I think they're asking you how many times does the ball bounce, or how many people are there? But there's like a gorilla, a guy in a gorilla suit that just walks through the back. And most of us completely miss that consciously. Subconsciously, we're picking it up. And you, you as a magician, know this.

SPEAKER_00 47:48

This is what misdirection is. Well, yes, it's misdirection. Yes, it's my specialist subject.

SPEAKER_01 47:53

Correct. So the what I'm gonna say to you is they're missing it consciously, they're not missing it subconsciously. You know, if a hypnotist in a stage show suggests to a subject that they can't remember their name when they snap their fingers, they still know their name, but they believe that they don't know their name, and so they can't find it. So the third thing I'm saying is find someone that you trust that creates this kind of content and start using it if you want to lose weight, if you don't want to have an anger problem anymore, if you want to heal your inner child. You know, you can do stuff while you're sleeping or while you're working on your k t your computer. You can have it playing in the background. You know, if you want to get if you want to get better at at earning money, play a a wealth and abundance track in the background because it will it will go to work on your subconscious mind. Now, this is not necessarily gonna deal with any blocks you may have, but you're really putting thousands and hundreds of thousands of seeds in your subconscious mind, some of which will grow and germinate, particularly if you keep doing it.

SPEAKER_00 48:59

Well, yeah, and even the act of listening to them is probably gonna show the block up, you know. So it's doing something, even if it's not, you know, if you do have to block it, you know, highlight it to you, I guess.

SPEAKER_01 49:10

That's an excellent point. The the most popular videos on my YouTube channel are are around weight loss. That's just how it's worked out. And I have one video that has three and a half million views, another one with like two million, another with one million. So I have a I have lots of comments. And these are all subliminal. And it's astonishing how many people report that they've lost all this weight just by putting this on at night and you know, going to sleep.

SPEAKER_00 49:41

What's your YouTube channel? Because there's gonna be people here. I'll put it in the description as well. It's Blue Sky Hypnosis, and that's also your website, so that's very handy, isn't it? It's very easy, yes. Do you know what? I've really enjoyed the conversation. I think that you've left us with a lot of uh so many pearls of gold there. I keep saying we wanted to pearls of gold, nuggets of gold. And do you know what? I'm gonna check your YouTube channel out myself because I slipped into bad habits. I used to listen to a lot of subliminals, and you've put them back on my radar. So thank you for that, Peter. And thank you for coming onto the SoulSync. It's been lovely to have you on. My pleasure to be here. There was certainly some food for thought on that one. Um, I'll have to listen to that conversation all over again to digest that because um it really got me thinking. I'm definitely gonna start doing more of the um affirmations. I'm gonna get onto his um YouTube channel because I used to do them quite a lot actually, um, alongside the morphic fields, which I've just started getting back into. Uh, if you go to uh Morpheus fields on YouTube, they're absolutely amazing. Um, you kind of can use them to reprogram your energy essentially, and um you can manifest all sorts of things with them. Um I'm doing a rubbish job at explaining those, aren't I? Um, but honestly, it made me um really think about our potential that we have, and um we we honestly we are unlimited um in our potential in what we can do in our lives. It's our thoughts uh that can really stop us from doing that. So um I'll leave you on that. Until next time, lots of love.